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New Headcovering Business

This is for my friend Alana’s new business. Go check it out!

Women of Peace

Do you reflect the Peace of Christ?

That question was my reference point yesterday and into today.  Our Lord granted me a small grace to see how those who have chosen to veil are also a powerful example of peace. I heard the quote recently from St. Seraphim of Sarov, “Gain the Peace of the Holy Spirit and one thousand souls around you will come to salvation.”

My immediate thought was, well, who would imagine a woman with a veil trying to harm another soul? Okay, aside from the 0.00000001% who blow themselves to bits and kill others  in desperate cultural deception…. Or those who get all haughty and condemning (meaning, closing the door to redemption of the other person), which is not measurable. I should very much hope that those of us who have submitted to Christ in the veil are trustworthy bearers of Peace.

Peace is not merely the absence of conflict; it is the sound of holiness under construction. Those of us who are veiled in a naked society are walking around like we have bright orange cones on our heads. [Or so I feel, many days.] I fall down, I get up, I ask for forgiveness. Rinse and repeat.

Just in that admitted weakness of failure, which we Christians call sin, is a Truth: there is Redemption possible. I pray earnestly this is what people see of me.

One Year Headcovering Anniversary

This week one year ago, I began wearing the covering daily in public.

And I haven’t looked back…

Covering for Beginners – What

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Now that you have decided when to start covering, what do you wear?

If you have clicked through my blog at all, you will see that I have worn just about every type of covering available on the market over the past year. Some are of my own manufacture, some have been gifts to me from other sisters, and most of them I ordered from various vendors. Even after all this time and experimentation, I have not settled into one particular style. One facet of any covering I wear, however, that I have settled on is to have at least 80% of my hair/head covered.

This brings us to the balancing act between the symbolism of a Christian covering and the modesty aspect. If you are comfortable with having a small triangle of lace pinned to your hair everyday to satisfy the symbolism, then that is covered enough. If you are like me, I find that my hair is one of my best features. Men really are attracted to long, healthy hair! Since my hair is a special thing for my husband to see, I cover it up. That simple.

A second consideration is whether or not you desire some denominational identification “tag”. The most common covering associated with a church is the Amish cap. They are practical, especially if you tie them under your chin, no clippies required. But, you have to be prepared for all the questions. If you are not aligned with the Anabaptist/Quaker theological tradition, I suggest staying away from caps.

The next, deeper connotations involved in choosing a covering style is the “hanging veil” versus a cap-like or snood-like covering. The Greek words detailing the NT covering used in 1 Cor. 11 describe something that hangs down or that can be wrapped around. Does this delineate the type of covering, or are the words only what Paul had to use to describe the covering? Lots to think about.

So, onto the fashion gallery of coverings:

  • A veiling, as pictured above. These require one’s hair to be pinned up and also require at least two clippies to hold it onto your hair. PrayerCoverings.com offer several versions, including one or two styles that tie under your chin.
  • The cap. I like caps, because my theology does line up with the traditional cap-wearing churches. And they do stay put without extra metal secured to my head. This is important for those living on the windy prairie!
  • Scarves. This is where your artistic/fashionable sense can shine. I love scarves for the same reason I love caps. Once you can handle tying them in the way you like, they do stay put. Tznius.com and Modest World sell the best, most beautiful scarves. I’ve also sewn some summer scarves of my own out of cotton voile.
  • Hijabs. I’ve been known to wrap my scarves into a traditional Muslim style. The look might make you feel uncomfortable in the “religious cross-dressing” category. ;) I find it rather…well, comforting and feminine.
  • Snoods offer a variation on the scarf theme. I have not worn snoods, but many ladies are dedicated snood-wearers. Modest World has a nice selection of snoods, as well as She Maketh Herself Coverings.
  • You can also find an assortment of covering styles designed for medical hair loss.

There are so many choices out there, that I am sure you will find the right balance between modesty and symbolism. Try out several different coverings at first to see what works for your family and situation. Give away the coverings you don’t use to another sister.

Covering for Beginners – When

You are here, reading this blog, because you’ve been somehow drawn towards the ancient Christian practice of covering one’s head. There are the usual reasons for the conviction, from reading Scripture in a new light to seeing another woman who covers and becoming intrigued. How ever which way you ended up here, it is clear to you that God has spoken and you must obey. But how? I will go through several questions every woman must clarify, especially if she is not a part of a church that actively promotes covering. Let’s start with,

When do I cover?

There are basically two sides to the timing of when a woman should cover her head. First, there are those who think women should cover during all waking hours because we are to “Pray without ceasing.” [1 Thes 5:17] This does not include showering/bathing, of course. ;) Some women even keep a shawl by her bedside so that should she awaken during the night and feel the need to pray, she is ready.

On the other side of the coin are those who think the covering should be only for public Christian assemblies. For them, the covering is a symbolic act which is necessary for a worship gathering (Mass, Bible Study, etc.).  These ladies may also choose to cover during private prayer and devotions in the home.

As with most anything else in life that is left up to mostly personal interpretation, there is a wide spectrum in between the two extremes. Within my covering practice, I’ve left some room for flexibility. For instance, I take my covering off when at home for my husband. He loves my hair and enjoys seeing it down. For most any other occasion that takes me outside my front door, I cover. The covering, for me, is an act of modesty as well as a spiritual symbol.

Finding the right level of obedience takes some time. I suggest that women try a “training wheels” approach at first. Put on your covering when in private prayer or devotions. Remember to do it every time. Then, when you feel “steady”, try it out at your church gathering. Again, consistency is the key. If your calling is to go full-time, and your husband is hesitant over the issue, grant him a test period of at least a week or two. Pray like the house is on fire the entire time, so that the grace of God will shine through this act! He may be won over to the Lord over this issue because of your attitude.

Bonhoeffer, Chesterton, and a Reason to Get Feisty

The moment two men realize they are brothers, they instantly begin to fight.”~G.K. Chesterton, Utopia of Usurers.

Bonhoeffer was a relentless critic of any way of life that substituted agreeableness for truthfulness.” ~Stanley Hauerwas, Burke Lectureship, University of California.

No good at all can come from acting before the world as though we knew the Truth, but in reality, we do not.” ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer, 1932 Youth Peace Rally in Czechoslovakia.

Try reading an essay from G.K. Chesterton every morning while eating your toast. You will have plenty to chew on for the rest of the day. Then round up an incredibly deep lecture on Bonhoeffer and the nature of Truth and listen to it over lunch time. Sprinkle in some rousing exchanges in a Bible Study group in the evening and post-rebuttals ad nauseum in Bloggy land. You have the perfect recipe for a Backbone. And it didn’t require 24 hours of marinating or soaking in whey solution. ;)

Let me explain the above quotes. In the essay (the title of which I forgot), Chesterton is arguing that men must love each other first before they can argue. It is not a particular love; it is a love for all Men. This is the motivation behind revolutionaries. They fight to have the best world for themselves and for their brothers.

But why do we fight? Do we fight at all? Do we have anything to fight about? Do we fight ‘”fair”? Or is it just a nagging quibble that ends in, “Well, this is what the Lord has for me to do.” Or, “As long as we keep the Main Thing, the Main Thing, the rest is details.” We do anything to avoid an honest fight. Actually, what I see in most blogging discourses is a personal statement but no real gauntlets thrown at one’s feet.

Truth has no insignificant details, my friends. Bonhoeffer observed how different American students were than their German counterparts during his time at Union Theological Seminary. (No, not just pro-Nationalist vs. Democracy.) he compares the American students’ spirit as to living in a hostel where the spirit of camaraderie and willingness to help each other pervades. “The American desire to maintain community above all else.” Sounds pretty appealing on the surface.

“W hen it comes to saying the Truth or preserving the community, the latter always prevails. Fairness, not Truth, becomes the primary commitment. ” The result is a leveling of the intellectual demands in American education. There is little motivation to be intellectually [or spiritually] ambitious. Why? Bonhoeffer thought this was part of the Protestant foundations in colonial times. Most of our religious ancestors came here to escape turmoil in Europe. Americans wanted to “forgo the final suffering in order to serve God in quietness and peace.” The steeple house was no longer a place where strife and questioning were tolerated. Americans just made new churches and denominations to escape the rigors of Reformation.

With his right to flee, the Christian Fugitive has suspended his right to fight.”

As a consequence, “…preaching becomes a series of edifying examples, a ready recital of [the preacher's] own religious experience, which are not assigned any positively binding character.” Remember last Sunday’s sermon? Sound familiar?

The relations between churches (and Christians) has not been one of Truth-arguing. This might make a favorable situation for unity amongst the bodies of Christ. Not so. “If the struggle for the Truth does not divide the church, then surely the unity of the church must already exist? Where Truth in creedal doctrine is not the reason for argument, church disintegration is greater than anywhere else.”

Succeeding generations of Americans who were free from creedal strife, found it unnecessary to fight over anything. “The fight over the creeds that their grandfathers knew became for them something unChristian. Any intolerance is in itself, unChristian. Because Christians have no place for the conflict Truthfulness requires, they contribute to the secularization of society. Tolerance becomes indifference and indifference leads to cynicism.”

So here how this lengthy essay pertains to my situation:

At once, I will proclaim my intolerance of Immodesty. Here is the kicker: Christian women SHOULD cover their heads. Point blank, there you have it, all out on the table. I am opening myself to conflict. Thank you for disagreeing. It is so refreshing.

And I am writing a book about it.

“Better this than to go on in this vegetating way.”

References: Burke Lecture, Stanley Hauerwas. 1 hour video. Listen to at least the first 30 minutes.

Chesterton, G.K., Utopia of Usurers. Short essays.

Custom

A prominent home school/homemaker blogger has written a stance on the head covering topic. I will not do a verse-by-verse rebuttal. That is not necessary because I will not even try to convince some one of a spiritual practice they deem a custom. I would only politely state that the whole argument in 1 Corinthians 11 must not be chopped up.

I shall follow Paul’s admonition in 11:16 to refrain from contention, not from veiling my head.

::UPDATE::  Anne’s School Place wrote an excellent rebuttal to the above article.


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"I can't say I don't believe in your God, but I don't believe He meant the world to be as it is." ~Nicholas Higgins. North and South.

"I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you are licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what." No idea where that last quote came from, but I like it!

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