The Women Formerly Known As Sexy

I’m picking up on a multi-blog thread Bill Kinnon started with his article, “The People Formerly Known as the Congregation”, which several others have picked up on with variations to Pastors, Normal Christians, etc.

Here at the CBrunette and at Veiled Glory, I’ve had the recent upswing of modesty in North American women as one of my main shticks. So here it goes…

Let me introduce you to the Women Formerly Known as Sexy. There may be thousands of us, but we are scattered amongst you, like seeds of wheat.

We are the flesh and blood women of the Church and of the World. We’ve followed the trends of both entities with the utmost abandon…until now.

We visited the beauty parlor on Saturdays to get our hair done and our manicures and petticures for our nails, so to look sparkling fresh on Sundays. If we are pastor’s wives, this was expected. Heaven forbid you have a zit on your forehead to glare bright red under the stage lights! You are the First Lady of your church, after all.

Some of us spent a month’s rent on matching suits, hats, shoes, and a purse….to wear maybe three or four times. Some of us slathered make-up on our faces, hoping to look years younger or older or cover up that zit. We’ve forgotten what our original hair color was or is. We’ve fried our skin under tanning bed lights. Melanoma, here we come!

We bought magazines with scantily clad skinny girls on the covers to garner the latest fashion trends…which really didn’t fit our curvaceous bodies. We encouraged our daughters to follow our footsteps. Now we wonder why they are depressed and have an eating disorder.

All the while, you in the Church have remained silent on the subject…or even encouraging. You assuaged us with retreats on Inner Beauty or being Daughters of the King. You’ve published endless books and magazines that look squeaky spiritually clean but still gives us the same message: Look Sexy on the Outside to feel Beautiful on the Inside.

We were silently screaming for acceptance of our souls instead of our frail bodies.

The Women Formerly Known as Sexy have discovered a better way, an ancient path of modesty and sobriety. We’ve looked to Scripture, to the examples of our great-grandmothers, and to the saints for the signposts of this path. We’ve noticed our husbands and fathers are much happier with the results.

Many of the Women Formerly Known as Sexy have stopped visiting shopping malls and have chosen thrift stores instead for most of their clothing needs. We’ve even learned to sew, knit, or reconstruct the tattered shreds of Mass Produced Clothing into unique artful creations.

We’ve grown out our hair, whether white, grey or mousy, recognizing the glory given us. Some Women Formerly Known as Sexy have covered their hair in public as a sign of submission to God and their husband instead of Mammon.

We love Burt’s Bees or handmade soaps instead of petroleum-based Beauty in a Bottle. We have aprons and are unashamed to use them! Lots of us wear dresses or skirts to show we are women instead of androgenous Old Navy drones.

Women Formerly Known as Sexy are out there…but few and far between. Sometimes we like to congregate in craft shows or online in Yahoo groups or forums. In our local churches, it can be a lonely road being a Woman Formerly Known Sexy. Other Women still trying to be Sexy don’t like the lack competition for some reason.

We are out there…keep your eyes open for shinning, joy-filled faces and modestly dressed Women Formerly Known as Sexy.

A Hymn to Share: #178 Saviour, Breathe an Evening Blessing

A Hymn for Evening Prayer:

Saviour, breathe a blessing, Ere repose our spirits seal;

Sin and want we come confessing; Thou canst save, and thou canst heal.

Though the night be dark and dreary, Darkness cannot hide from thee;

Thou art he who, never weary, watchest where thy people be.

Though destruction walk around us, though the arrows past us fly,

Angel-guards from thee surround us; we are safe, if Thou art nigh.

Be Thou nigh, should death o’ertake us; Jesus, then our refuge be,

And in paradise awake us, There to rest in peace with thee. Amen.

Modesty and the 21st Century

Anne Marie wrote this article for her newsletter. Here is a snippet:

As we walk along the way of life, we want to make sure all we do will glorify God. With that basic thought as a guiding principle we should be able to discern what is modest apparel, actions, thoughts, reading or viewing material. Will God be made bigger; will others see God clearly through my family and me when they see us as a son or daughter of the King?

I agree with her application of modesty as a virtue which applies to the whole of life. We put on the right clothing, but our actions or words might betray a wanton attitude.

Also, check out this sermon on Chastity from 1749. Its long but worth the reading time!

Confession Time

For the majority of you who read this confession, it will seem like the silliest thing to “forgive”. If there is one thing I’ve learned, if you experience conviction over a personal sin, it is not silly. So, this is what I did last night:

Painted my toes with Ruby Slipper red nail polish. Actually the first coat was in a darker shade of red and I added the shimmery top coat.

Back Story: I haven’t painted my nails in more than a year. For most of my teenage through adult life, I’ve kept my toes painted because I felt “naked” without the shinny coat of pink or red or green(!) I wear sandals as much as possible, so my toes are out there in public.

Soon after I became engaged (November 2005), I decided that if Jeff didn’t care, neither did I have to care about whether my toes were pretty to the world. I chucked all (I thought) of my nailpolish. I found two bottles of red a few weeks ago in the back of a drawer. Hmmm…I didn’t throw them away but sat them on my vanity top.

Last night, I just grabbed the bottles and did a petticure right there in the living room. Jeff complained about the smell; I realized how much that stuff stinks! Two coats, and there they are, all sparkly red. Jeff commented: “You’ll just put on socks and shoes tomorrow and no one will know you did that.”

The funny thing is, I don’t own any more nail polish remover! So, I have to purchse a $1 bottle to get the stuff off…and then I won’t need it anymore! How frivolous and how sad is this.

I don’t like nail polish. I don’t need nail polish. I’m throwing the junk AWAY.

Husbands are wonderful!

After reading Mrs. Alexandra’s post, I wanted to brag on my husband!

Jeff is a faithful servant. For example, he totes our laundry down and back from the apartment facilites. He folds his own clothes. He washes the dishes, by hand! He’ll drive if we’re riding somewhere together. The list could go on…

He loves my cat. She’ll climb into his lap every morning for a good 5 minute belly rub. Aawwww…

He keeps his body healthy and loves to play sports. Its softball season!

Jeff improves his mind through extensive reading…sorry, I slipped with a Pride & Prejudice quote.

Most of all, Jeff loves God and serves Him with all his heart!

Together, after my college graduation, May, 2006.

Modest Mondays: Blue Hair and Bonnets

My new friend Tracy has short blue hair, multiple tattoos, peg piercings, and wears goth-styled clothing. Her three children also follow this style. Who would think we’d have anything in common?!? Apparently, we’ve got plenty!

Tracy has been attending our church for about 5 months now along with her Army husband. I’ve been chatty with her off and on. She doesn’t seem to mind my Amish-tendencies one bit. She is from Phoenix, where I had lived for 4 years. She loves her kids, writing stories, natural foods, and Jesus. Thats a good place to start…

On Resurrection Sunday I announced that I would be starting a Ladies’ small group to meet twice a month for Bible study and fellowship. One glitch: I needed a hostess! Well, when I mentioned it, Tracy shot her hand up in the air to volunteer. She seems rather eager to meet new people. So, now you have a conservative Anabaptist/Quakerly sort and a goth lady leading and hosting a Bible study.

Who would have thought? I’m rather excited about the prospect. I wonder if anyone else will show up?

Angels and Demons at Virginia Tech

My heart is very heavy for those who are suffering because of the Virginia Tech shootings. I lived not too far from there and attended Hollins University, in Roanoke, Virginia. I work at a university campus. It all hits close to home. May God have the glory!

A Hymn to Share: # 94 Come, ye faithful raise the strain

I thought of a new feature for the blog while looking at a new (old) addition to my bookshelf. On a recent antique shop visit, I found a darling pocket-sized book of hymns, printed in 1940 for the Episcopal Church. The inside cover has the local parish’s name stamped along with the received date, January 21, 1944. The edges are ragged but the binding is still tight and the pages unsmudged. Here is an Eastertide Hymn:

Come, ye faithful, raise the strain of triumphant gladness; God hath brough his Israel into joy from sadness; Loosed from Pharaoh’s bitter yoke Jacob’s sons and daughters; Led them with unmoistened foot through the Red Sea waters.

‘Tis the spring of souls today; Christ hath burst his prison, and from three days’ sleep in death as a sun hath risen; All the winter of our sins long and dark, is flying from his light, to whom we give Laud and praise undying.

Now the queen of seasons, bright with the day of splendor, with the royal feast of feasts, Comes its joy to render; Comes to glad Jerusalem, who with true affection welcomes in unwearied strains Jesus resurrection.

Neither might the gates of death, nor the tomb’s dark portal, nor the watchers, nor the seal hold thee as a mortal: but today amidst thine own thou didst stand bestowing that thy peace which evermore passeth human knowing. Amen

Attributed to St. Jon of Damascus, 8th century.

The whole of the Easter/Pascha/Passover story in one hymn!

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Pants-Suits and Christian Women

[Bonnet nod: Ginger. This can be reproduced. Not sure where the original is published. If you know, tell me!]

PANTS - SUITS and Christian Women

A reasoned consideration based on the Bible. By Dr. Horace F. Dean (All quotations from the Bible are from the King James Version.)

Thousands of Christian girls and women today are unwittingly or innocently lending strong support to the rising revolt against God and the authority of His Word.

Misled by aggressive leaders of the various so-called women’s liberation movements, the women of the world are being won over to the idea that the Biblical view of man being the head of the woman and family is all nonsense, invalid and absurd in this modern world.

The whole thrust of this highly organized movement is to seek to blur God’s distinctive purpose in the separation of the sexes- male and female. Nothing so irks the proponents of the Equal Rights Amendment of our National Constitution than the thought that God first created man and then woman-and that He placed man in the position of authority in the family and gave him supreme power over His creation-beast, fish and fowl.

These “liberation” advocates demand the abolition of this “headship of man” doctrine in every area of life; Church-Family-Education-Industry Government, etc. Their resentment is relentless and they have made great strides toward the passage of the so-called ERA Act. It is not yet clear what the outcome will be. Quite a few states which had given approval are now reversing their decision. Much new light has been shed on the unholy and destructive purposes and results which will follow if its adoption is voted. One of the main targets of this proposed legislation is the family and home. This was God’s first Institution provided for the well-being of His human family.

One of the clever moves to advance the “liberation cause” and to obscure the Biblical distinction between man and woman, came in the area of dress or clothing. Within the past decade or two the “Unisex clothing bit” began to manifest itself. Women who capitulated to it appeared to look like men-in trousers, creased, with jackets cut to match men’s wear.

During recent years, there has developed a tremendous swing to this drastic new fashion. At first slow, then more and more women accepted and adopted it.

Christian women at first refrained, probably somewhat shocked, but little by little overcame this attitude and now, today, thousands have acquiesced and feel no shame in conforming to this worldly pattern. Even in fundamental Churches many are emboldened to appear so attired. This writer personally does not believe that such women are intentionally defying the Word of God. Rather, they probably are unaware that God has clearly spoken against this practice. And He surely has. Ignorance of His Word however, is never justified.

As a result, multitudes of our beloved Christian women who are caught up in this fashion do not realize that they are transgressing one of the most fundamental of moral laws given by God–This is found in Deuteronomy 22:5.

“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment; for all that do so are an abomination unto the Lord thy God.”

The College Dictionary (Random House) defines abomination thus–”intense aversion or loathing”–”vile, shameful or detestable.”

Some believing women have sought to find a loophole in this edict of God as given to Moses. They suggest that back in Moses’ day men and women dressed alike. Obviously this could not be so or the verse would not suggest a distinct difference. Certainly today throughout the western culture the distinction is clear, males wear trousers–females normally wear skirts or dresses. All accepted authoritative versions of the Bible are 100% in agreement as to the accuracy of the King James Version quoted above.

The dependable Wycliffe Bible Commentary (Moody Press) on this verse searches out the rationale back of this law of God and I quote it in full.

“Man must be mindful in all the use he makes of this world, he is God’s steward. Various regulations were therefore prescribed for the Israelites which would continually remind them as they pursued the cultural program of God’s Kingdom (cf. Gen. 1:2 8) that the world is the Lord’s for He is its Maker. Man is indeed set as king over the earth, with the whole order of nature under his dominion; but man’s rule is a vice-regency in the Creator’s name. Human authority must therefore be exercised according to the pattern God appoints. It is this fundamental principle which underlies the opening requirement of this section (i.e. of Deut. 22) that the distinction between man and woman should not be blurred by the one’s appropriating the characteristic articles of the other (Deut. 22:5). God created them male and female, with distinctive natures and functions; specifically, in the divinely established order of authority. Man is the head of the woman as together they reign over the earth.”

Quite clearly and in keeping with this comment, a Christian woman in a pants suit is out of character. So attired, she suffers an abridgement of her God-given femininity.

The basic issue then in this whole matter is: Hath God Spoken? And if He has, shall we obey Him? We have clearly shown that He has spoken very definitely on this matter. For the child of God who wishes to walk in His will and enjoy unbroken fellowship with the Lord there can only be one answer and that–”I will obey His Word at any cost. ” It will not be easy for some women who have been reading this and who have been caught up in this modern fashion to break away from conformity with the practice of their friends. This will take courage. Be assured however, that God will provide this courage if you will but ask Him.

We have heard Christian women defend the practice and fashion. “It is so comfortable,” they say–and this probably is true. However, it seems that our revered mothers and grandmothers managed well in skirts and dresses. Another says: “I feel more modest in pants when playing this or that sport.” This is very debatable. Pants clearly outline a woman’s form and can be provocative to a man’s baser thoughts. Still another asks: “How can you climb a mountain in a dress? etc., etc.” These all make sense, humanly speaking, but what is really being thought or said is “God is not fair in His pronouncement or law on the matter.” And so there are and will be those who will violate or ignore His command.

When this is true of a real believer-be sure it will be a most costly decision. Disobedience to God’s Word is SIN. It breaks fellowship with the Lord. It will lead to further transgressions and an increasing drift from God and His Word. Once you reject the light-the light in you will become darkness.
The issue is clear–Will you honor God’s Word? or Are you going to defy it? It is just as simple as that. It is not a question as to your own views about the matter-for God has spoken and His Word is final and authoritative.

Sadly, there are those in high places, men well esteemed as Christian leaders who have offered misleading counsel to concerned women who, regarding the issue sincerely wish to do what is right in God’s sight.

Not long ago one of the best known evangelists in the nation supplied the following comment in his syndicated newspaper column.

A Woman Writes: “Dear …. Many women now a days are wearing men’s clothes, even to Church. Doesn’t it say in the Bible (Deut. 22:5) that a woman should not be clothed with man’s apparel, and furthermore, that those who do this are abominable before God?”-K.E.

This preacher’s answer:

“God created men and women to be different (Gen. 2) Generally, those ideas and practices that compromise a man’s masculinity, or minimize a woman’s femininity, are to be avoided.

“But having said that, let me explain something about the reference you make to Deuteronomy. This book is a rehearsal of the principal laws the Hebrew people needed to know before the entrance into Canaan. However, chapter 18 explicitly states that the originally organized system would be superseded by another, namely Christianity. The law, with its limitations, was replaced by Christ’s grace, with all its liberty (Romans 6:14). This means that all the rigid regulations were overtaken by higher virtues — mainly that of love.

“St. Peter’s emphasis is clear in I Peter 3 (Revised Standard Version) where he says a woman’s real beauty is the ‘hidden person of the heart’. Thus, it is not essentially anything exterior.

“Today, as you know, the casual, relaxed styles are in. I think women can go along with this emphasis on functionalism without reflecting unfavorably on their femininity or, more importantly, on their commitment to Jesus Christ.”

This bit of counsel contains several grievous errors:

(1) What the preacher appears to be saying is that what was an abomination in Moses’ day no longer is an abomination to God.

(2) He bases this falsely on the assumption that with the coming of Jesus Christ and the liberating message of the Gospel of God’s grace, the believer then is free “to do his or her own thing.” If this is true concerning the command of God in Deuteronomy 22:5, then by the same token–it must be that all of the other hundreds of laws of Moses including the ten Commandments may be disregarded by the believer.

God never intended this to be so. In Matthew 5:17,18 Jesus said, “think not that I am come to destroy the law or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfill. For verily, I say unto you, till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shad In no wise pass, till all be fulfilled.”

It is blessedly true that we are not saved by the keeping of the law-“For, by the deeds of the law there shall be no flesh be justified In his sight” Rom. 3:20a “For what the law could not do In that It was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin In the flesh: that the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit” Rom. 8:3,4.

When the believer place his complete trust in Jesus Christ and His finished work on Calvary-His precious blood shed for the sinner, the Holy Spirit immediately comes to abide in the believer’s life-and the Bible then speaks of him as being “in Christ” and “if any man be In Christ he Is a new creature.” 2 Corinthians 5:17.

Now then, does it mean that since we are saved by His Grace we are freed from the moral law established by God through His servant Moses? By no means, as we read in Romans 3:31 “Do we then make void the law through faith? God forbid: yea, we establish the law.” Again in Romans 6:1 “Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?”

Christ lived a completely sinless life on earth–He thus fulfilled all the law–never transgressing even in one point. We who are saved are now “dwelling in Christ.” So that the righteousness of the law is fulfilled in us, as we walk in obedience to the Word of God.

(3) In view of the foregoing, the preacher who is quoted above is actually guilty of wresting the truth of God’s Word to make his point, God strongly condemns such practice-”Thou shalt not wrest judgment” Deuteronomy 16:19. The College Dictionary defines the word WREST to mean “to twist or turn from the proper application.” Peter, in his second epistle has this strong word on the matter: “There are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures.” 2 Peter 3:16.

(4) In his final paragraph this gentleman naturally concludes that Christian women are now free to just go and “do their own thing.” This is pure antinomianism and is rebuked by the Word of God. Read Romans 6:15.

Our appeal to Christian women is to heed the commandment of the Lord-in this as in all other matters in life–Jesus said, “He that hath my commandments and keepeth them, he h Is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love Him and will manifest myseff unto him.” John 14:21. When the Word of God is ignored or violated, then it is that “every man doeth that which Is right In his own eyes.” Judges 17:6. This is the spirit of anarchy-lawless opposition to God-and certainly every true child of God, men or women, will have no part in this spirit of the age.

The sorry thing about this news item quoted above, is that as a syndicated column written by a highly esteemed preacher, it was no doubt read by thousands of Christian women. Many of these likely have wondered about the right or wrong of believing women adopting this “in” fashion of wearing pants suits, etc. So now, on this man’s say-so, they abandon their reserve and reticence and follow the popular trend. This is tragic indeed.

The writer fully realizes that in publishing this paper he is dealing with an extremely sensitive issue. There will no doubt be a large volume of “un-fan” mail and much caustic and vitriolic response. However, I believe that hundreds and perhaps thousands of Christian women will warmly receive this message-those who have wondered about the right or wrong of the matter. The writer would greatly appreciate hearing from any who have been helped.

Remember the Issue Is this - Has God spoken? The answer is yes, He has! Then, obedience to His command is the only response that His children must give. The Holy, Righteous, Omnipotent God never changes. His “Word Is forever settled In Heaven.” Psalm 119:89.

 

This article was written by:

 

Dr. Horace F. Dean

It will not be copyrighted and may be reprinted as published and Christian magazines may run it in their columns.

39 days of Celebration!

In liturgical churches of the Western traditions, the period after Easter is a time of continued celebration - or at least it should be. Jeff and I had the privilege to hear N.T. Wright speak in Roanoke, Virginia, last month. He called churches to be extravagant and prolonged in their Easter celebrations. My dear husband reminded me yesterday that we can be festive where ever we go. Look at the life we have, hallelujah! He is Risen, indeed.

My cape dress and cap combination went over very well. I had been wearing the cap with more “urban” clothing like denim skirts on Sundays. I received several “cute” comments. Jeff’s uncle thought my “Amish garb” was cool. The Lord knows how to boost the confidence of His children! Even if I had been reviled, I would have carried on with HC. Its not about receiving kudos; its about Christ.